"I cannot stop eating snacks," said Linda, in our meeting by telephone. "And I can understand why. I do not overeat at meals, but then I snack on things that need not eat. I had this problem intermittently since adolescence and I need to solve it. "
"Linda, now, take you back to the last time we nibbled. See for those who can tune into what was happening and how I felt. "
"It happened a lot this past weekend. I had some work I had done I would not. Snacking is a way to push a little. "
"While we were in the resistance to do the job, right?"
"Yes, that's what happened."
"What is the feeling inside when you have to take actionmething you need not do?"
"I feel trapped."
"Do you often feel trapped in your life?"
"Now, you ask -.... Yes, I feel trapped a lot I feel trapped on this work, I do not I feel trapped, when my husband asks me to do things that often feel trapped by our financial position, I feel I trapped when I have an email address. Sometimes I even feel trapped by the needs of my children. "
"Is it when you taste it?"
"Yes, now that I give it some thought, it's on a regular basis out of the feeling of being trapped for several minutes. But then I end up feeling trapped in my body because I do not like whon they weigh! "
I knew exactly what Linda was talking about, as I felt trapped in my life so much, and I learned to turn to various addictions to withstand feeling trapped. Every time I saw something like "I" do "means" I felt trapped.
"Linda, I know the feeling of being trapped and need to find a way. What I have learned to do is change my mind telling me that I "must" accomplish thatmething, to see as an opportunity for me and for others. When I change "shall" by asking "What is my chance to love right now?" The feeling of being trapped and dissolves resistance.
"For example, right now, imagine opening your e-mail and ask," What is my ability to love right now? "What comes to mind?"
"The first thing that comes to mind is you can send emails with kind and caring people who come to me."
"What do they say to himself when people come to you?"
"I feel upset because now I have to respond."
"How do you feel that that is the opportunity to be kind and loving?"
"Wow, it's incredible! When I say that I must answer, the very first thing I do is stand up and snack. I find myself saying "only" get ready for the feeling of being trapped and resistant. But I when I say it's an opportunity to be kind and loving, I feel good and I hope to answer the email. I think if I do not forget that whenever there's something I have to do wunwell probably have the ability to stop biting between meals. "
Nobody likes to feel trapped, and many individuals immediately go to the resistance when they feel trapped. When you determine to see every situation in your life as an opportunity to love and open to learning what is normally affectionate, they feel trapped.