A recent study indicates that crying does not make people feel better. But there's a problem with this study.
(The tears of shame, the tears wsick not make you feel better, based on a study by Carl Nierenberg,
The study indicates that:
"Making the mood of tears only improved in one third of preachers who keeps an eye on their behavior below is recent research."
The problem is that no distinction between a victim crying and crying to release the true pain of grief, loneliness and anxiety. They do not differentiate between the victim and tears real tears that release feelings of central pain. It is likely thon the third party who benefited were those mourning releasing real pain.
TEARS OF THE VICTIM
Cry like a victim is a bottomless pit, and wsick never lead to feeling better. The tears of the victims are protected once again take responsibility for yourself. Is a state of self-pity, reasonably than a state of compassion for yourself. When you cry like a victim, his heart closes. Is a state of self-give up.
It could possibly be difficult to know when you find yourself a victim, but it's easy to know when the other is to be a victim. We all had the experience of being with someone who is crying and wants us to feel better. We felt a tug on them to solve them. When I'm with someone who is crying on this state for the victims, I am not attracted to sustain and comfort them. I have compassion for them because they're in a state of deep self-neglect, and I am on a regular basis wsicking to assist should you really want the kind of assistance that results in personal responsibility. However, it could love for them to allow me to do for them whon they need to do for themselves.
If you find that grief does not make you feel better, then chances are that you're in a state of victim. The cry of this state, you may even make you feel bad. This study found that:
"In most cases - 61 percent of them - sobbers reported no change in mood compared to how they felt before rolling down her cheeks wet with thirty percent have experienced a better mood and after nine percent felt worse. ".
You move outside the state of the victim on the time you want the responsibility of their own feelings.
Genuine tears
Crying will help release the pain deep deep anguish and pain that is due to very painful situations of life. Crying helps move the energy of these painful emotions of the body so that you need not stay and cause disease.
When you cry as an expression of real feelings, which are carefully keeping your heart with deep compassion for yourself. His heart is open for you, and to receive the comfort of a spiritual source of love, and others.
While the victim cry of pain can go on and on, the cry of real pain is normally short. The pain may come in waves, and should you allow yourself to grieve every time decrease steadily.
The study states:
"... Participants who cried with great intensity - but not for very long time - enjoyed the greatest explosion of his bawling: Your moods benefited most from tears. "